tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post6280411437797589308..comments2023-06-19T05:58:14.725-04:00Comments on Barrenness in a Fertile Land: Do I Have Enough Black Friends?Curly Suehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07232873717802171517noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-47359553014880609682014-05-21T08:46:46.999-04:002014-05-21T08:46:46.999-04:00Trisha, your presence in my life (my internet life...Trisha, your presence in my life (my internet life?) is a God-send. Thank you for your thoughtful responses. It is so frustrating that a lot of the adult adoptee narratives out there do not represent the current reality of the adoption system (closed vs. open adoptions). Thank you for reminding me of that and having faith that I can do this! I have found a few good books that give me practical Curly Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07232873717802171517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-29274995971575818132014-05-21T08:39:15.570-04:002014-05-21T08:39:15.570-04:00Thank you, Sci Chick :-) I think it has been hard ...Thank you, Sci Chick :-) I think it has been hard for me to remember that just because there are a lot of transracial adoption "horror stories" out there, doesn't mean they are the majority and doesn't mean my family in particular is doomed to failure.Curly Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07232873717802171517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-68792250758187211542014-05-20T20:41:23.670-04:002014-05-20T20:41:23.670-04:00So I'm back with another comment, I've bee...So I'm back with another comment, I've been thinking about your post all day. I just wanted to reassure you that you CAN do this. And do it well. I always feel that those who worry about these kind of issues are the best off because you are aware of them. Pretending that the world doesn't see color is ignorant. They do. But it is getting better and better. I was so scared that people Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-88200941749405648822014-05-20T14:56:01.525-04:002014-05-20T14:56:01.525-04:00Listen, no matter what kind of adoption you decide...Listen, no matter what kind of adoption you decide to do there are always going to be people who don't agree. As an adoptive mom I've really had to develop a tough skin when it comes to this matter. There are people out there, adult adoptees especially, who will tell you how horrible adoption is. That a child needs to have a genetic link and know where they come from and if you deny them Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-87540401318612979092014-05-19T12:00:36.418-04:002014-05-19T12:00:36.418-04:00I'm also going to be trite and say "all y...I'm also going to be trite and say "all you need is love" (and lots and lots of common sense and research) and your child will be mostly okay. That may be overly simplistic though. <br /><br />Also. I think a trans-racial adoption (and please nobody jump on me for saying this) may be less or more difficult for everybody involved depending on where you live. I would think it would beAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15553205805046479504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-43298104998670926452014-05-19T11:50:15.395-04:002014-05-19T11:50:15.395-04:00When I read this post, I thought of one black pers...When I read this post, I thought of one black person who is not against white people adopting a black child: Shonda Rhimes, because this was a storyline on Grey's Anatomy, a show she created.<br /><br />Just because one group of people feels that this is damaging, that does not make written in stone and true across the board, and each person's story is different. <br /><br />I really, Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15553205805046479504noreply@blogger.com