tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post3045787649633418349..comments2023-06-19T05:58:14.725-04:00Comments on Barrenness in a Fertile Land: So JadedCurly Suehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07232873717802171517noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-25662752320615926432012-10-15T19:05:56.047-04:002012-10-15T19:05:56.047-04:00Good question. Why DO people give that advice? T...Good question. Why DO people give that advice? That "you just need to be positive" attitude makes me MAD. It feels to me like it brushes off my attempts to have a baby as NOT urgent and NOT difficult and it implies that I'm not doing all I can do to "be positive" and help myself get pregnant, that it is somehow MY fault. I've too had SO much hope, felt I had NO Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-66113796951793823222012-10-14T11:58:19.442-04:002012-10-14T11:58:19.442-04:00Back before I started this blog, when I was still ...Back before I started this blog, when I was still just secretly typing rants to myself on LiveJournal, I wrote a post all about how my uterus and ovaries don't care one lick about how I "feel". Me being hopeful, happy, sad, ambivalent does *NOT* make an impact on my eggs, M's swimmers, or the ability for my ute to host a baby. So so stupid, so *WHY* do people still give that &Curly Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07232873717802171517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-63654454851686442462012-10-14T11:53:12.965-04:002012-10-14T11:53:12.965-04:00Thank you so much, Trisha. It feels really good to...Thank you so much, Trisha. It feels really good to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way. I welcome anyone to carry the hope for me while I can't do it for myself. And yet, I find myself more than capable of being hopeful for others, isn't that weird? I'm such a good cheerleader for everyone but myself...Curly Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07232873717802171517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-25136279980294165722012-10-13T23:12:00.520-04:002012-10-13T23:12:00.520-04:00Ugh, don't get me started. "it'll ha...Ugh, don't get me started. "it'll happen if you stay positive". please, I've tried positive, negative, ambivalent, hopeful, not-hopeful, praying, yelling... Seeing as how it doesn't affect me getting pregnant in the slightest, I'll just deal with it how I deal with it from now on thankyouverymuch.<br /><br />I tested when I knew it probably wouldn't be Stupid Storkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00161877442649107282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-21204905296341914162012-10-12T17:07:48.768-04:002012-10-12T17:07:48.768-04:00I can so relate to this post. It's an hard pla...I can so relate to this post. It's an hard place to be in when you are actively TTC but you can no longer picture a baby in your life. It's a place I wish you no one would have to know. To me this post does not sound depressing at all, it is honest and brave. I will hold out hope for you my friend, sometimes it is hard to hope for ourselves so someone else needs to do it for us. *hugs*Trishahttp://theelusivesecondline.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-84421626408922941582012-10-12T15:49:09.437-04:002012-10-12T15:49:09.437-04:00I suppose I could try to convince myself that I...I suppose I could try to convince myself that I'm looking at an OPK and not a preg test, but I don't think want to risk it. I think I understand now why people test out the trigger, but my self-preservation tactics make me not inclined to try it myself. Thanks for the comment!Curly Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07232873717802171517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-72813919703858508472012-10-12T15:46:30.247-04:002012-10-12T15:46:30.247-04:00And that would explain why I should *not* test out...And that would explain why I should *not* test out the shot - I never test before 14DPO and I wish I could avoid even peeing on *that* stick, but alas, I must be sure I'm not pregnant before pouring that glass of wine...Curly Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07232873717802171517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-51832357095420655922012-10-12T15:43:26.765-04:002012-10-12T15:43:26.765-04:00That definitely makes sense to test out the trigge...That definitely makes sense to test out the trigger if you like to test early. Would certainly give one a better idea if its a true BFP. I'm the opposite, though. I wish I could just not test at all, but my luteal phase is so damn long! LOL, I get impatient for the conciliatory glass of wine, so I always test on 14DPO with a big roll of my eyes.Curly Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07232873717802171517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-86397987745032655632012-10-12T14:23:27.669-04:002012-10-12T14:23:27.669-04:00I totally understand - I think that it just sounds...I totally understand - I think that it just sounds darker when you put it into words but mostly it is very accurate. Sometimes it's better that way - to not have the high hopes and be let down. Plus you can be very surprised when it does happen :-) It's so frustrating to act pregnant every cycle and have it not work. I am a believer in doing what you want as long as it's not too MRStypeAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03357032293757879179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-87770306087499795032012-10-12T14:20:31.764-04:002012-10-12T14:20:31.764-04:00I totally understand what you are saying. Not havi...I totally understand what you are saying. Not having hope is a preservation thing I think. At least it is for me. Not sure if it helped when I would see that BFN, but at least I could say to myself, "see, I knew it". It felt a little less painful that way. <br /><br />I *think* some people test out the trigger so that they can test early and be sure that their results are real. This is Tuttihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05892495385717172227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3681510362855017653.post-15351401358386831272012-10-12T14:19:32.350-04:002012-10-12T14:19:32.350-04:00As you probably know, I totally test out the shot....As you probably know, I totally test out the shot. I tend to test early so I want to be sure that I'm not seeing a positive that is still residual trigger. That would suck. Because of this I've learned that it takes my body a really long time to metabolize the trigger, so I probably can't be sure until my period is late. Despite that I still test out the trigger. I think it helps me Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com